{"id":4135,"date":"2019-04-27T10:21:24","date_gmt":"2019-04-27T10:21:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hr4free.com\/?p=4135"},"modified":"2019-07-27T12:37:42","modified_gmt":"2019-07-27T12:37:42","slug":"conflict-management-the-main-barriers-to-assertiveness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hr4free.com\/en\/Conflict-Management-Skills\/Barriers-to-Assertiveness","title":{"rendered":"Conflict Management: the Main Barriers to Assertiveness"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Although diverse\u00a0<strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.hr4free.com\/en\/Conflict-Management-Skills\/Communication-Techniques-and-Assertiveness\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">applicable communication techniques (examples)<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0can help us deal with conflicts in a more harmonious way, it is also of interest to note that certain\u00a0<em>personal tendencies<\/em>\u00a0and\u00a0<em>habits<\/em>\u00a0can undermine our efforts.<\/p>\n<p>It is indeed difficult to list up all specific situations and personal factors that have an impact on the practice of\u00a0<em>assertive communication<\/em>. What is certain, however, is that<strong>some\u00a0individual needs, although perfectly legitimate and understandable at the start, can constitute serious\u00a0obstacles to assertiveness\u00a0once they become too invasive<\/strong>. Here are a few examples of such attitudes, as well as suggestions as to how to counter them:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li><strong>Striving to be loved at all costs:<\/strong>\u00a0Like all human beings, we want to be loved and are looking for affection. Wanting to be loved and appreciated at all costs in the professional context, however, can quickly lead to dependence. Demand the respect of others (without necessarily becoming a dictator!) and your self-esteem will automatically grow.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Wanting to be recognized by all:\u00a0<\/strong>If you make kindness your number one priority, then your freedom of maneuver will be considerably diminished. The search for recognition corresponds to a natural and legitimate need. However, an excessive sensitivity toward what others think of you may cause you to lose your independence and freedom of action.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Seeking to impose your ideas on your team members at all costs:<\/strong>\u00a0Give the people around you the right to disagree, let them exercise their freedom of thought and speech. Conflicts that are managed properly are the drivers of evolution.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Developing a &#8220;superman complex&#8221;, seeking to control all situations:<\/strong>\u00a0It is preferable to avoid playing the role of the \u201csavior\u201d and rather choose to participate in a collective strategy.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Seeking perfection in every action:<\/strong>\u00a0One way to counter this tendency is to focus on what is essential and really represents a source of added value on the longer run.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Trying to gain sympathy by overworking oneself:<\/strong>\u00a0Assertiveness in this case consists in acknowledging and respecting one\u2019s limits.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Denying oneself the right to fail:\u00a0<\/strong>Telling yourself \u201cI can\u2019t do anything wrong\u201d is like forgetting that he who has never done anything wrong in life\u2026has never done anything at all!<\/li>\n<li><strong>Setting oneself conflicting goals:<\/strong>\u00a0Assuming responsibilities while seeking to avoid conflicts at all costs will certainly prove to be a major cause of disappointment. Moreover, in order to achieve ambitious, realistic and relevant goals, you first have to set yourself a well-defined target, imagine the steps you will have to make to get there, and check that this target is consistent with your other values and needs, as well as your environment.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Here is the PDF version of this document:\u00a0<strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.hr4free.com\/PDF_Files\/Blog_EN_Management_assertiveness_main_barriers.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The Main Barriers to Assertiveness (Document)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>The article\u00a0<strong><a href=\"http:\/\/www.hr4free.com\/en\/Conflict-Management-Skills\/Applications-of-Assertiveness-Reprimand-Early-Retirement-Interview\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">&#8220;Conflict Management: Two Examples of Real-Life Applications of Assertiveness&#8221;<\/a><\/strong>\u00a0offers you to take a closer look at two concrete applications of assertiveness in potentially conflictual situations: the\u00a0<em>reprimand interview<\/em>\u00a0and the\u00a0<em>retirement interview<\/em>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Although diverse\u00a0applicable communication techniques (examples)\u00a0can help us deal with conflicts in a more harmonious way, it is also of interest to note that certain\u00a0personal tendencies\u00a0and\u00a0habits\u00a0can undermine our efforts. It is indeed difficult to list up all specific situations and personal factors that have an impact on the practice of\u00a0assertive communication. 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